Not a Date | A new way to make friends without the pressure of dating

It’s all in our name: NOT A DATE…

Our club provides an enjoyable, relaxed, no-hassle way to meet new friends without the pressure of dating and you never know, you might just meet the one! No apps. No swiping. No fakes. No scammers.

Rest assured that we’ve done all the hard work up front so you can just enjoy your great new social life. Monthly events in quality venues with interesting people. Genuine connections with like-minded single people.

Enjoy meeting people again, the old-fashioned way.

No apps, no swiping, no ghosting, no no-shows

Dating safety is a big issue for both sexes - physical, sexual, financial and psychological. With that in mind, our club values, what we stand for, and the service we provide are all rooted in protecting you - so that you can just get on with meeting people and having fun.

Your safety is our number one priority. From our application process, our communications, right through to when you attend one of our events, we have a ‘safety-first’ theme front and centre.

More about Not A Date

Our events...

Music events

Horse racing

Fashion and shopping events

Dance classes

Food-inspired events

Supercars

Country pursuits

Wellness

Planes, trains, and yachts

Weekends away

Wine tasting

Competitive group activities

Classic cars

Sport

Cocktail making

Music events

Horse racing

Fashion and shopping events

Dance classes

Food-inspired events

Supercars

Country pursuits

Wellness

Planes, trains, and yachts

Weekends away

Wine tasting

Competitive group activities

Classic cars

Sport

Cocktail making

Sophisticated socialising, zero pretence.

With monthly drinks soirees in great locations and a full calendar of additional experiences to choose from, you don’t even have to organise your social life, let alone worry about no-shows ever again!

Just choose your events, come along and enjoy with like-minded people for fun and friendship. You never know, without all the pressure, you may just find ‘the one’.

More about our events

Genuine, respectful people

Safe environment

Unforgettable events

Safety

Ensuring our members’ safety is our number one priority

Likeability

Creating a community of genuine people who connect

Reliability

Personal interactions are key, but we also embrace technology to make everything work

Trust

We have the best interests of our members at heart, first and foremost

Respect

Respecting each other’s personal boundaries at all times

Curated Introductions

Meet people who share your interests, values and lifestyle in a relaxed, pressure-free setting.

Don't Take Our Word For It...

"Not a Date seems to me to be the perfect solution. All the negativity of the apps, the fakeness, falseness and deception, removed by Not a Date and perfectly designed events to meet that person. Bring it on”

Imogen

from Leicester

"I tried the apps, but I do not have time to wade through the time wasters and the pictures – goodness me the pictures! Not a Date is the perfect answer. I know Mr Right is not going to knock on my door, but this way I have a social life, meet new people and may meet Mr Right. Win win!”

Anne

from Oxford

"Not all men are bad but there are certainly a few out there giving us a terrible reputation. Not a Date seems to be the reassurance we both need to meet genuine people in a relaxed safe environment. It’s a great idea!”

Mike

from Leicester

"Not a Date seems to make sense. They do all the vetting and people who go through that are clearly serious, AND the date gets arranged for me. I cannot wait!”

Pete

from Rugby